It’s still rape when the rapist is famous, or well-liked. “A family guy.” That kind of bullshit.
It’s still rape when the rapist is a friend, date, hook-up, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife. Rapists are people — and usually not strangers.
It’s still rape when it happens in the LGBT community.
It’s still rape when the victim is underage. No matter what she was wearing. No matter what he said in class. They could be “asking for it,” doesn’t matter — when the person is underage, it’s rape.
It’s still rape when the media calls victims, “accusers,” and rapes, “sex.”
It’s still rape when you’re fucked up on alcohol or drugs. When you said yes before you said no. When you’re a person who likes sex, yes, just not rape.
It’s still rape when Whoopi Goldberg is friends with the rapist. When the military protects its chain of command. When the Vatican says it shouldn’t be held responsible.
It’s still rape when politicians are too busy trying to control abortion to listen to victims and give them the dignity and support they deserve.
It’s still rape when the victim has chosen to identify as a survivor (heck yeah!).
We need a new conversation on rape, immediately. We need to insist upon it. We need to make corrections the moment they are due. Otherwise, we are all part of the problem.