Tag: recovery

This Is A Lola Young Appreciation Post

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Fam, I’m going to keep this short, but I’m a huge Lola Young fan. She’s a wickedly talented artist. For the past year her music has been the soundtrack of me writing my thesis novel about an unlikeable woman experiencing domestic violence. I’ve listened to her song “Messy” on repeat until I’ve cried (and I love that she gets beaucoup royalties for this, please take all my money, girl)!

She is open about having experienced a variety of mental health and substance issues. A few days ago, she collapsed on stage at a music festival. She has since said that she is taking a break and will “cancel everything for the foreseeable future.”

I already loved the crap out of her. Now it is only more. People dealing with their demons, period, much less in public, get ALL of my praise. Everyone has demons. Everyone, dude. But only some are brave enough to admit they have them.

Do what you need to do to be well, girl! We love you.

This is a Lola Young appreciation post.

Why Do I Talk About An Eating Disorder I Don’t Have Anymore?

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Somewhere, tonight, someone is hurting. I know because I have been her.

I have been the girl who will not answer the telephone, who walks through rooms without speaking. I have met insomnia and the noises night can make. I understand going for late night drives and lights shining on grass, the crippling fear of social functions where food is served, the failure to know what is hunger because it all feels terrible all the time.

It’s embarrassing, terrifying, and sometimes a freaking fucking relief to sit on a hospital bed when you are about to die because of your own actions. This was all so many years ago.

I have recovered from an eating disorder. I am not going to stop talking about it.

My life is gleefully full with other things, yes. The depression that narrowed my world and told me I could never be small enough is a shriveled snake skin that has blown thousands of miles behind me. Instead, I shimmer. The grueling hard work of recovery let me live, and so I’m living life in neon lights.

Because I am blessed with a life that is full, I could easily make the choice to not talk about these things. But I share my story and my experiences because I have come to realize that when I do, people who are locked in hell as I once was feel hope or a little less scared to share what’s going on with someone else. It’s not just people with eating disorders, it’s people who struggle with other mental health issues, addictions, and things that are stigmatized and hard to talk about.

Me sharing my eating disorder story without shame or fear is one of the most political things I do — and I work in politics on life-or-death issues (DEFEND DACA!). It is an invitation to compassion and believing that more is possible, a rejection of shame and stigma about the shit real people go through every day, and a direct and personal expression of my belief that it’s revolutionary for women and all people to tell the truth about our lives.

I am not stuck in the past. I am sharing my past for the purpose of helping others become unstuck. Over the years, so many people have come to me with their stories. Our struggles and conditions are not the same but we are united in our defiance of demons and the stigma that gives them the upper hand they never deserved.

To those of you who are still fighting, keep pushing. It’s worth it. Love you!